I wouldn’t believe this story if I was not a Muslim!
The story of Umm Sulaim bint Milhan Al-Ansariyyah. Everything about her life is inspiring. But there is this one incident that boggles my mind.
Briefly. She was from an illustrious family. She was the mother of the famous Companion Anas bin Malik and her brother was the eminent Companion Haram bin Milhan. She was married to Malik bin Nadhar. She accepted Islam which resulted in serious issues with her husband. Finally her husband migrated to Syria and was murdered. Then she dedicated her son Anas bin Malik to the service of the Prophet (ﷺ). She was called Sehlah, Ghumiysa’, Rumiysa’ Ramlah and Sahlah, but finally she came to be known only as Umm Sulaim. She had many admirable qualities and there was a handsome young man,the leader of his tribe, Abu Talhah who wanted to marry her. He proposed and Umm Sulaim put a condition that she will accept only if he accepts Islam and that would be her mahr(dowry). Anas, her son, arranged the marriage and soon the couple had a son who Abu Talha loved dearly.
Her son fell sick and the sickness led to his death. What did she do! Displaying utmost patience, she did all the burial rites without screaming, tearing her clothes, slapping her cheeks and without making the scene that majority of the women nowadays make.
And here comes the part which leaves me baffled!
She prepared herself for her husband( put on make up and beautified herself basically), prepared dinner for him and in the morning she revealed the news of the death of their child.
Now if you lose a baby and be patient over the loss, that is an exemplary behaviour. But how is it possible that you prepare yourself and spend a night with your husband while you know that you just lost your baby. This is what blows away my mind!
That night Abu Talha, her husband, asked her how is the boy to which she replied he is calm and quiet. She didn’t want to upset her husband after his long tiring day. A great lesson to learn here! You dont meet your husband with all the worries at the door. Greet him with salaam and smile.
Back to story: She told him in the morning in the most wisest of ways. She said, ’if a person entrusted one with something, and then came to claim it, should one return it?” He answered “that certainly one should return it gladly.” She said, then the one who granted us the child, took it away. He was upset and went to the Prophet (ﷺ) and narrated the whole story. Prophet (ﷺ) asked, “Did you spend the night together?” Abu Talha replied in affirmative. Prophet (ﷺ) made du’a that Allaah bless their night and they were granted another child.
The story amazes me everytime it crosses my mind. And what makes me sad is the fact that women with such Eemaan are rare, may be lost.
Eemaan makes unbearable bearable.
Downsum A story that amazes me