This post is about working women and silent war on them. Allaah created Aadam and then when Aadam felt loneliness and lack of companionship, lack of pleasure and peace, Allaah then created Aadam’s wife from his rib. So that human beings cannot complain about women being inferior because she was created from a man (can be a reason). Her role was simple. Her life was simple. When both of them came to this world, they were assigned separate duties and she performed her part very well.
The messenger of Allaah informed this Ummah regarding the duties of women in this life during the current sharee’ah. He said as,
Ibn Hibbaan narrated that ‘Aboo Hurayrah said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If a woman establishes her five (daily Salaah), fasts her month (Ramadaan), guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her: ‘Enter Jannah from whichever of the gates of Jannah you wish.’” (Classed as Saheeh by al-Albaanee in Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 660)
Her role was within the boundaries of home. Allaah assigned the duty of earning money for her survival to the men belonging to her. When she was married, husband felt that she is solely dependent upon him so he misused his right. He started to abuse her knowing that she cannot run away from his mansion because she was financially and physically dependent upon her husband. When she called to the other men belonging to her (brother, son), they rejected her right to inherit and shelter. She became totally and fully helpless, the only option which was left for her is to stay in patience in the abused atmosfear in her husband’s company which led her to all kinds of mental and physical disorders.
When it became a common practise or the story of every second Muslim family, parents started to make their daughters study for the reason to earn her living as a precautionary measure so that when this will happen to their daughter, she can survive on her own after they die.
This step of parents led their daughters into more trouble because initially her duty was to look after her family as she was the queen of her home, but now when she stepped down to the worker level, she has to earn as well as look after her home. This is no doubt an open injustice done to her, clearly a burden upon her gentle shoulders as her nature opposes to work as a worker.
Time went by, men started to demand to marry only those women who work (job) and hence those women who did not had job were regarded as third grade. When this trend became widespread, women were forced to work by their basic need to marry men. Now she was not working just because of a precautionary measure, but because if she does not work, no man will marry her. This is today’s Muslim Woman’s state.
Further, since she couldn’t t handle all these things together, she could not raise her daughter in a manner in which her daughter in the long run can raise her kids in the same fashion. She could not raise her son with such an upright character so that tomorrow when his son will have his own family, he can up-bring them in the same manner. When this happened, the whole society became corrupt and mannerless which resulted in a corrupt Muslim community. This is today’s Muslim Community’s state.
Men should treat his wife in a gentle and wise way, same as salaf used to treat their wives. He should not abuse her or criticize her and take advantage of his wife’s dependence over him. He should fear Allaah concerning his wife, so that his wife can stay at home happily and up-bring children in an Islaamic manner. As the hadeeth says,
Jaabir that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said in his Farewell Sermon:
“Fear Allaah concerning women! Verily you have taken them on the security of Allaah, and intercourse with them has been made lawful unto you by words of Allaah. You too have rights over them, and that they should not allow anyone to sit on your bed [i.e., not let them into the house] whom you do not like. But if they do that, you can chastise them but not severely. Their rights upon you are that you should provide them with food and clothing in a fitting manner” (Saheeh of Imaam Muslim, 1218)
He should create such an atmosphere where it becomes easy for her to spend her life with calmness even though both of you may be suffering from problems, diseases and illnesses. But when you are happy with each other by abiding with the laws of Allaah and fearing Him alone, you will not violate each other’s rights or abuse each other.
Note: This post does not prohibit Muslim women from seeking knowledge, also it has nothing to do with fiqh.
She was simple, not anymore
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