Saturday, August 27, 2016

Are You a Muslim Who Doesn’t Pray? Read On.

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Are You a Muslim Who Doesn’t Pray? Read On.

You want to pray, but you just.. Can’t.

Perhaps you’ve always wanted to be one of those people who pray.. It seems so easy for some. They just get up and do it. Perhaps you were one of those people at one time, but now.. Not so much.

Something inside you is broken. Scratch that.. It’s not exactly broken.. More like, it feels hollow inside. Something is missing. You feel nothing.. Numb.

So how do we get from this to praying? The problem with most advice on salah is that it looks at things from a reactive point of view instead of a proactive point of view. Not praying? Well, just start. Or better yet, take one salah at a time and keep building until you reach five. Good advice, no?

No. It doesn’t address what leads a person towards salah to begin with.

For some one who feels that hollowness inside, ‘just praying’ does nothing to stir the soul. It doesn’t fill you up. And, in fact, it can deplete you even further. No, you need to start somewhere else.. You need to fill yourself up before your actions all follow suit.

We pray because of one simple reason: We love Allah. It’s the loving Allah part that makes it easy. It’s the loving Allah part that makes you stand up when you’re exhausted. Without that piece of the puzzle, nothing else will make salah stick.

When we look at the early Muslims, when Islam first came down, were there a lot of commandments? No, there weren’t. The early surahs are filled with lessons about Allah, about His Angels, His Messengers, His Books. The rules and regulations came later, after the foundation was built. So when we look at our own lives, why do we focus on the rules and regulations without paying attention to the foundation first?

If we want to be amongst those who pray.. Who pray regularly and easily.. Who jump up when the time for salah begins.. Then we need to begin first by building a love for Allah. And in order to do this, we need to KNOW Him.

I always tell people who aren’t praying to begin first with dhikr. Say SubhanAllah 100 times each day. And as you do so, reflect on our own weaknesses, and the Greatness of Allah. Reflect on how it is only with His Help that we are able to do anything. When you do this, you’ll start a habit of THINKING about Allah. You’re remembering Him.

And what happens when you remember Allah? It starts to soften your dead heart.. You start to have more peace.. And most importantly, He remembers YOU.

Ibn al-Qayyim stated, “In the heart there is hardness which can only be softened by remembrance of Allah. So the slave must treat the hardness of his heart with the remembrance of Allah.”

“Unquestionably, by the remembrance of Allah hearts are assured.” (Qur’an, 13:28)

“I am to my servant as he expects of Me, I am with him when he remembers Me. If he remembers Me in his heart, I remember him to Myself, and if he remembers me in an assembly, I mention him in an assembly better than his…” (Bukhari and Muslim)

Be MINDFUL of this as you sit each day doing some dhikr. Think to yourself, I am walking towards Allah.. As the last hadith goes on to say..

“… When he comes closer to Me by a handspan, I come closer to him an arm’s length. If he draws closer to Me by an arm’s length, I draw closer by a distance of two outstretched arms nearer to him. If my servant comes to Me walking, I go to him running.” (Al-Bukhari)

You’re not praying (yet) but be mindful that you are getting closer. Allow yourself to be in a state where you know you aren’t doing what you’re supposed to, but you’re taking steps to get there. One of the tactics of Shaitan is that he leads you to believe that it’s all or nothing. Either you’re praying, or you’re sinfully not. So when we’re not, a dark cloud of guilt hovers over us, leaving us in darkness, unable to move forward.

Do you know the story of the man who killed 99 men?

Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Prophet of Allah (PBUH) said: “There was a man from among a nation before you who killed ninety-nine people and then made an inquiry about the most learned person on the earth. He was directed to a monk. He came to him and told him that he had killed ninety-nine people and asked him if there was any chance for his repentance to be accepted. He replied in the negative and the man killed him also completing one hundred. He then asked about the most learned man in the earth. He was directed to a scholar. He told him that he had killed one hundred people and asked him if there was any chance for his repentance to be accepted. He replied in the affirmative and asked, `Who stands between you and repentance? Go to such and such land; there (you will find) people devoted to prayer and worship of Allah, join them in worship, and do not come back to your land because it is an evil place.’ So he went away and hardly had he covered half the distance when death overtook him; and there was a dispute between the angels of mercy and the angels of torment. The angels of mercy pleaded, ‘This man has come with a repenting heart to Allah,’ and the angels of punishment argued, ‘He never did a virtuous deed in his life.’ Then there appeared another angel in the form of a human being and the contending angels agreed to make him arbiter between them. He said, `Measure the distance between the two lands. He will be considered belonging to the land to which he is nearer.’ They measured and found him closer to the land (land of piety) where he intended to go, and so the angels of mercy collected his soul”. [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

In another version: “He was found to be nearer to the locality of the pious by a cubit and was thus included among them”. Another version says: “Allah commanded (the land which he wanted to leave) to move away and commanded the other land (his destination) to draw nearer and then He said: “Now measure the distance between them.’ It was found that he was nearer to his goal by a hand’s span and was thus forgiven”. It is also narrated that he drew closer by a slight movement on his chest.

What is awesome about this story is that he hadn’t dramatically changed in terms of his actions. He was just WALKING towards change. And that was enough for Allah. Allah is so patient that He watches us disobey Him. And He waits. Waiting for us to turn back to Him. SubhanAllah!

So begin by walking towards Him. And be mindful that when you do your dhikr, you are taking a step.

Another good step is to begin learning His Names. When you KNOW Him, really know Him, you can’t help but attach your heart onto Him. Knowing Allah’s Names will draw your heart closer to Him. And as it does so, you will remember Him more..

Over time, your desire to please Him and turn back to Him will increase.. And this, my friends, is what will fill you up. This is what will take away the hollowness.. THIS is what will make salah easy. THIS is where the advice, ‘take it one salah at a time’ will be beneficial. When you get to this place, it won’t be such a giant leap to contemplate standing up for one prayer. And slowly, one will become two.. And so on..

But before you begin building your prayers, take the time to build your foundations, just as they early Muslims did. Start with baby steps, like doingdhikr or learning His Names.

(Author: Saira Siddique – Source)


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He calls you to Allah

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Our brother
 
So your brother is the one who :
 
– advises you,
– reminds you, and
– alerts you.
 
Your brother is not the one who :
– gives you no thoughts, a
– voids you, or
– speaks to you with pretty words that lack real truth and sincerity.
 
Rather, your brother, in reality is :
 
– the one who advises you,
– the one who admonishes you and reminds you.
 
He calls you to Allah, keeps explaining to you the path of deliverence clearly until you follow it and warns you about the path towards destruction.
 
He keeps explaining how evil it’s end is until you avoid it.
 
— Sh. Abdulazīz Bin Bāz | Majmū’ Fatāwa, v. 14, p. 21
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Friday, August 26, 2016

Debating In Islam – Shaykh Rabee

Shaykh Rabee said, “…Amongst them (i.e Ahlul bidah) there are du’aat (callers) – they are neither to be sat with nor debated with, except in cases of necessity and for a maslahah [i.e. a carefully assessed benefit identified by a scholar]; (otherwise) it is not permissible to enter into debate with them. 

It is not permissible to enter into a specific debate with the Rawaafid [(extreme Shia) – or any other innovator] if you are weak (in knowledge), except if one is a man who is firmly grounded in knowledge and religion, (very proficient in) establishing evidences, clever and a possessor of (force and strength that enables him to easily excel in debate with the clear proofs without being affected by doubts); so if he sees a benefit in debating them, he debates them.

[Allaah (The Most High) said: “And argue with them in a way that is better].”

This is the legislated debate; Allaah did not close the door of debate one hundred percent, so if we have a way of establishing the proofs and to guide the people to good, we follow it. The one who is debated with may not benefit but others may benefit.

As for the weak one, then no (i.e. he does not engage in debate). Even amongst the scholars there is one who is weak and one who is led to be mistaken by shubhah (i.e. a statement or affair that resembles the truth but is falsehood in reality). He may be a scholar but his character is weak, so he becomes weak in the presence of Ahlul Bidah even if they are younger than him and lesser in knowledge! Indeed, it has happened to many of those who ascribe to the Sunnah and Hadeeth that they changed ( i.e. fell into some deviation or error) due to their weakness and opposition to the methodology of the Salaf. 

For example: Al Bayhaqqi was from the seniors of Ahlul hadeeth and their scholars, and was deceived by some of the Ashaa’irah such as Ibn Fawrak and his ilk, so he fell into Ash’ariyyah!

Also in this era! How many among the youth have been ruined at the hands of Ahlul Bidah?!

How many youth, middle age men and graduates from universities have been deceived by Ahlul Bidah, and thus they fall into their arms?! They are deceived by the parties (of illegal partisanship) and thus fall into their arms!

Why is this? Because they did (or do) not act upon the statement of the Messenger: “If you see those who follow thereof that is not entirely clear, then they are those whom Allah has named [as having deviation (from the truth)] so beware of them.”

The strong one calls Ahlul Bidah; he calls the Christians [and othere kuffar]. There has to be dawah in the path Allaah and there has to be strong scholars who disseminate the religion of Allaah; and when necessary, they debate so that the proofs are established and benefit one who is to benefit.” 

Ref: Sharh Aqeedah As-Salaf Ashaab Al-Hadeeth’ pages 301-304′ abridged and slightly paraphrased via salaficentre.com

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What Is Hizbiyyah? – Shaykh Muhammad Hizaam

Shaykh Muhammad Hizaam said, “The meaning of hizbiyyah is: a group from the people who gather together upon an idea which contradicts the guidance of the Prophet [Mohammed].

They associate and disassociate for [that group which is built upon an idea which is contrary to the prophets guidance] and therefore their amity and enmity is only because these people have restricted themselves to their groups corrupt ideas and to the establishment of the goals behind those astray ideas. That is the strongly abhorred bigotry [hizbiyyah].

Therefore it’s compulsory that the peoples love and hate be for the sake of Allah’s Book and the Sunnah of his Messenger and this is the party of Allah.

Allah said, “Verily, it is the Party of Allah that will be the successful.” [Al-Mujadilah: 22]

As for what was previosly mentioned (hizbiyyah) than it is blameworthy and indeed Allah says, “And be not of the polytheists of those who split up their religion and became sects, each sect rejoicing in that which is with it.” [Ar-Rum: 31-32]

Allah said, “Verily those who divide their religion and break up into sects, you have no concern in them in the least. Their affair is only with Allah, who then will tell them that what they used to do.” [Al-An’am: 159]

Allah said, “And verily, this is My Straight Path, so follow it and do not follow other paths for they will separate you away from His Path.” [Al An’am: 153]

So there is no success for the ummah in their splitting (into sects and parties nor is it a mercy like some claim who depend upon nothing but weak narrations that contradict Allah’s book). 

The ummah will never be successful except by them being united upon Allah’s book and the Sunnah of the Prophet and with the establishment of Allah’s religion (the way Allah intends it to be established).

Allah said, “And hold fast all of you together to the Rope of Allah and be not divided among yourselves, and remember Allah’s Favour on you, for you were enemies one to another but He joined your hearts together, so that, by His Grace you became brothers.” [Ali Imran:103]

Ref: munkiraat shaaiah via aloloomenglish.net

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Thursday, August 25, 2016

Busy Yourself With Seeking Knowkedge Not He Said She Said And Hunting For Others Mistakes – Shaykh Abdul Mohsin Al-Abbaad

Shaykh Abdul Mohsin Al-Abbaad said, “The obligation upon every Muslim, upon the students of knowledge, is to fear Allaah – ‘Azza Wa jall- and to busy themselves with seeking knowledge; and to be eager with acquiring it; and to know the path or the paths that the major scholars are upon, such as, Shaykh Ibn Baaz, Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen, Shaykh Ash-Shanqeetee, and Shaykh Al-Albaanee. Meaning, the people should be eager to be upon that which those major scholars who busied themselves with knowledge were upon.

As for the state of those people [some who are Salafi] who busy themselves with “he said, she said”, and follow the mistakes or search for the errors [of other Salafis], and then warn from individuals due to the fact that he has this or that, or that he’s gotten this or that, then busying himself with this distracts from knowledge and it’s not upon him to busy himself with that. It’s upon the people to be eager to benefit themselves from the people of knowledge and return to them.

If there comes a mistake from them, and he is from Ahlu Sunnah, those who busy themselves with knowledge, then do not abandon, reject, and warn from him. Rather you should benefit from him and reject his mistakes and warn from his mistake as well.

If he is abandoned, neglected, and warned against, then this is not the way of virtuousness, and it is not the way to learn knowledge; because Ahlu Sunnah, if they were upon this way – meaning they go to every little thing – then there will not remain a single person! Meaning from those people!

It is upon the people to be eager to attain knowledge and busy themselves with knowledge. They should not busy themselves with “he said, she said” because those who busy themselves with this will not acquire knowledge and they will not be busy with seeking knowledge, they will be busy with “he said, she said”! There is nothing useful from this, rather he’ll acquire harm from this and that is to speak about others. This will cut the ways which have good and reform.

Also who has benefited from this preoccupation [not his family nor any others in his community].

[Lastly] busying himself with issues like this which he is not permitted to preoccupy himself with [does not benefit him]. It’s not permissible to preoccupy ones time with this.”

Ref: Q&A session at the Imaam Daarul Hijrah Al-’Illmiyyah (3-7, 1430) in Masjid Qiblatayn in Madeenah An-Nubuwwah via al-athaar.org

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Sincere Advice To Salafi Students Of Knowledge – Shaykh Al-Fawzaan

Shaykh Al-Fawzaan said, “I advise you [O students of knowledge] to fear Allaah, and to continue pursuing knowledge, doing so eagerly, and to act according to what Allah has taught you, and to call to Allah and to teach the people what you’ve learnt—and to leave squabbling, that which has taken place amongst the [Salafi] students of knowledge, hating [one another], cursing [one and other], setting people against each other [i .e. setting Salafi laypeople and other Salafi students of knowlegde against each other], until they split the ummah and split the students of knowledge, [saying]: ‘Beware of so and so!’ and ‘Don’t sit with so and so!’ and lastly “Don’t read to so and so!’—this is not allowed.

If so and so has a mistake, advise him one on one, as for you spreading it amongst the people and warning against him whilst he is a scholar or a student of knowledge or a righteous person who has made a mistake [then no], such a mistake does not necessitate that it be spread, “Lo! Those who love that slander be spread concerning those who believe, theirs will be a painful punishment in this world and the Hereafter. Allaah knoweth and ye know not.” [Nur 24:19]

What is obligatory is to sincerely advise one another, what is obligatory is to love one another, especially the students of knowledge, especially the scholars, to respect the scholars, and not to recommend against some of them, and warn against some of them. This is the cause of many evils, the cause of fighting and hatred, the cause of fitnah—steer clear of these things.

May Allah reward you all with good.

Be as Allah wanted you to be: “And indeed this, your religion, is one religion, and I am your Lord, so fear Me.” [Mu’minun 23:52]

Also Allah said, “And be not like the ones who became divided and differed after the clear proofs had come to them. For such there is an awful doom.” [Aali-Imran 3:105]

Aspire to bring about harmony. Seek to sincerely advise one another. Desire to co-operate in righteousness and piety.

Be on your guard against those things which split the Muslims [in general and in particular the Salafis]. The Muslims are in need of unity, in need of eliminating discord amongst themselves, in need of cooperating in righteousness and piety. Don’t become a source of support for the enemy in breaking up the Muslims (in general and in particular the Salafis]9 disuniting them.

If disunity occurs between the [Salafi] scholars and the [Salafi] students of knowledge, who’s left for the Ummah?

The evil/damage [of such a predicament] isn’t on the masses, it comes back on the students of knowledge, those who reconcile between people, those who teach the people.

Leave these things, this wrangling, these altercations, these blameworthy characteristics.

Allah said, “And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead?” [Hujuraat 49:12] 

Plus Allah said, “And obey not every worthless habitual oath-monger. Hinderer of good, transgressing, sinful.” [Al-Qalam 68:10-12]

Don’t obey these people, such that you will end up being an aid to the Devil in splitting the Ummah and weakening it.

Sincerely advise the one you find a flaw in—if [indeed] it is established [that he really did make it in the first place!]

Don’t believe rumours.

Allah said, “O you who have believed! If there comes to you a disobedient one with information, verify it, lest you harm a people out of ignorance and afterwards become regretful over what you have done.” [Hujuraat 49:6]

Allah said, “O you who have believed! When you go forth in the cause of Allaah, investigate and do not say to one who gives you [a greeting of] peace, ‘You are not a believer.’” [Nisaa 4:94]

Allah has encouraged the Muslims to unite; for them to be united in their word (their dawah to tawheed); to cooperate and sincerely advise one another.

We’re not saying leave the mistake, no. Correct the mistake, we say correct the mistake, don’t leave the mistake, but correct it with legislated means.

May Allaah give all the success to do that which He loves and is pleased with.”

Ref: Giftsofknowledge.net

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Wednesday, August 24, 2016

Dawah Is With Patience, Kindness And Gentleness Not Harshness, Ignorance Or Violence – Shaykh Bin Baz

Shaykh Bin Baz said, “Among the qualifications necessary for a da’aee is that he should have patience, kindness, and gentleness with forbearing temperament as the prophets (peace be upon them) were. Never should a da`ee be rushing, violent, or unduly strict. 

Rather, he has to be patient, forbearing and kind while practicing dawah. To this effect, we have stated some evidence earlier. 

For example, Allah (Glorified and Exalted be He) says, “Invite (mankind, O Muhammad ) to the Way of your Lord (i.e. Islâm) with wisdom (i.e. with the Divine Revelation and the Qur’ân) and fair preaching, and argue with them in a way that is better.” [Surah Al-Nahl, 16: 125]

He (Glorified be He) also says, “And by the Mercy of Allah, you dealt with them gently.” [Surah Al-Imran, 3: 159]

In the story of Musa (Moses) and Harun (Aaron), Allah (Glorified and Exalted be He) says, “And speak to him mildly, perhaps he may accept admonition or fear (Allah).” [Surah Ta­Ha, 20: 44]

The Prophet (peace be upon him) is authentically reported to have said, “O Allah, whoever gains control over some affairs of my people and is hard upon them, be hard upon him, and whoever gains control over some affairs of my people and is kind to them, be kind to him.” [Muslim, Sahih, Book on rulership, no. 1828; and Ahmad ibn Hanbal, Musnad, vol. 6, p. 93.]

So, it is obligatory for you, slaves of Allah, to be kind in your dawah, and not to be harsh with people. Do not make people turn away from Islam [or Salafiyyah] because of your harshness, ignorance or violent, harmful approach.

It is thus obligatory for you to be forbearing, gentle, pleasant and lenient in speech so that your words may have an effect on the heart of your brother [whether he is Salafi or an innovator], or that it may have an effect on one toward whom your dawah is directed [whether they beven Muslim or non-Muslim].

As such, people will receive your dawah better, will be affected by it and will show appreciation for it. On the contrary, harshness causes disaffection, alienation, and division [between the Muslims], no unity [between the ummah].”

Ref: Alifta.net via AbdurRahman.Org

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Do not make people turn away from Islam because of your harshness, ignorance or violent, harmful approach – Ibn Baz

Third: Among the qualifications necessary for a Da`y is that he should have patience, kindness, and gentleness with forbearing temperament as the prophets (peace be upon them) were.

Never should a Da`y be rushing, violent, or unduly strict. Rather, he has to be patient, forbearing and kind while practicing Da`wah. To this effect, we have stated some evidence earlier. For example, Allah (Glorified and Exalted be He) says:

“Invite (mankind, O Muhammad صلى الله عليه و سلم) to the Way of your Lord (i.e. Islâm) with wisdom (i.e. with the Divine Revelation and the Qur’ân) and fair preaching, and argue with them in a way that is better.” [Surah Al-Nahl, 16: 125]

He (Glorified be He) also says: And by the Mercy of Allâh, you dealt with them gently. In the story of Musa (Moses) and Harun (Aaron), Allah (Glorified and Exalted be He) says:

“And speak to him mildly, perhaps he may accept admonition or fear (Allâh).”[Surah Ta­Ha, 20: 44]

The Prophet (peace be upon him) is authentically reported to have said:

“O Allah, whoever gains control over some affairs of my people and is hard upon them, be hard upon him, and whoever gains control over some affairs of my people and is kind to them, be kind to him.”

[Muslim, Sahih, Book on rulership, no. 1828; and Ahmad ibn Hanbal, Musnad, vol. 6, p. 93.]

So, it is obligatory for you, slaves of Allah, to be kind in your Da`wah, and not to be harsh with people. Do not make people turn away from Islam because of your harshness, ignorance or violent, harmful approach. It is thus obligatory for you to be forbearing, gentle, pleasant and lenient in speech so that your words may have an effect on the heart of your brother, or that it may have an effect on one toward whom your Da`wah is directed. As such, people will receive your Da`wah better, will be affected by it and will show appreciation. On the contrary, harshness causes disaffection, alienation, and division, not unity.

Fatwas of Ibn Baz :  Volume 1 > Da`wah to Allah and the manners of those calling to Him > Fourth: Morals and etiquette of the Da`ys to Allah

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Tuesday, August 23, 2016

Types of Showing Off in Worship – Dr. Saleh As Saleh

If a person shows off in his worship, then this falls under four categories.

1. If showing off is the driving force behind doing the act of worship, then the worship is invalid. It is reported in the hadeeth qudsi that Allaah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) said,

“I am the One, One Who does not stand in need of a partner. If anyone does anything in which he associates anyone else with Me, I shall abandon him with one whom he associates with Allaah.” [3]

2. If a person begins his worship sincerely and showing off occurs later at which point he tries to stop showing off, then his worship is valid.

Otherwise, if he continues and does not attempt to ward it off, inclining towards it, then one examines whether the latter part of this worship depends on its earlier part or vice verse. For example, with salaah and wudhu, these worships would become invalid in this case.

On the other hand, if the worship is distinguished such that the parts are independent, then whatever occurred before showing off is valid, and whatever occurred after the person began to show off is invalid. For instance, a person gives $50 in charity sincerely. Later, he gives $500 to show off. His first donation is valid while the $500 are invalid.

3. If a person begins to show off after concluding the worship, then the worship is valid. However, this nullifies the reward for the worship.

Allaah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) said (in the translation of the meaning):

“O you who believe! Do not render in vain your Sadaqah (charity) by reminders of your generosity or by injury, like him who spends his wealth to be seen of men, and he does not believe in Allaah, nor in the Last Day. His likeness is the likeness of a smooth rock on which is a little dust; on it falls heavy rain which leaves it bare. They are not able to do anything with what they have earned. And Allaah does not guide the disbelieving people.”

Surah al-Baqarah (2:264)

4. The showing off is in the descriptive manner of the worship, not its origin. As such, the person initiates the action for the sake of Allaah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) but shows off in its description.

For instance, someone begins his salaah sincerely, but he hears someone come, at which point he begins to perfect his salaah more than normal. In this situation, all of that which he added to the sincere part of the salaah will have no reward.

Footnotes:
[3] Reported in Saheeh Muslim, (English translation no. 7114, book 42)

SourceAl-Qawaa’id wal-Usool al-Jaami’ah wal-Furooq watTaqaaseem al-Badee’ah an-Naafi’ah. The Basic Rulings and Principles of Fiqh – The Beneficial, Eloquent Classifications and Differentiations. Foundation -5

By Sh. ‘Abdur Rahmaan ibn Naasir As-Sa’di (rahimahullaah) (d. 1376 A.H./1956 C.E.)

Discussion based upon: (1) Sh. Ibn Sa’di’s original explanation, (2) Our Sh. Muhammad ibn Saalih Al-‘Uthaimeen’s Commentary, and (3) Full explanation by our Sh. (Dr.) Sami ibn Muhammad As-Sghair (summer 1427 A.H./2006 C.E.)

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Sunday, August 21, 2016

The Barakah of Trusting Allah: Continuing After A Miscarriage

The Barakah of Trusting Allah: Continuing After A Miscarriage | ProductiveMuslim

“I am very sorry. The baby does not have a heartbeat.” Two sentences. Eleven words. These words shot through my ears like a rocket. Pain, heartbreak, and sadness rushed through my veins. I felt confusion, denial, and shock. I cried, and cried, and cried. I began to think of all the plans and dreams my husband and I had for our first baby.

I then remembered that I was just a human. A flawed and imperfect piece of flesh made from clay. This was not something I could control or could have avoided. This was part of Allah’s subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) plan for me. As humans, we plan, and plan, and plan, but Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) is the best of planners. I knew this was the plan that Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) had prepared for me since I was in my mother’s womb. I was confident that Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) had a reason behind this sadness. I was happy to know that Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) knew I was strong enough to handle this trial. Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) says in the Qur’an,

“Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity.” [Qur’an: Chapter 2: Verse 286]

It was after this realization that I uttered “inna lilah wa inna ilayhi raji’oon, alhamdulilah alaa kulli hal” –

Surely we belong to Allah and to Him shall we return. Praise be to Allah in every circumstance.

In the past years, whenever I was in the need for help or motivation, I always turned to Productive Muslim for encouragement and support. This was my secret source of energy. Unfortunately, this was the first time in eight years that I could not find what I was looking for at Productive Muslim. I settled for searching up random articles on google with the phrase “continuing after a miscarriage”. As I was looking through a variety of articles on miscarriage, I thought of all the Muslimahs who had gone through the same painful experience as I was going through. It was then that I felt the need to give you my advice on how to continue with life after having a miscarriage.

Dealing with pain

Pain comes in two different ways: physical and emotional. Getting sick would be considered a physical pain while the loss of a loved one would be an emotional pain. Unfortunately, miscarriage falls under both types of pain. It targets you physically and emotionally.

I tried to fight back the emotional pain, but sometimes the physical pain became stronger making me vulnerable to the emotional pain. I tried to put on a happy face, but I somehow associated everything around me to my precious unborn baby. I tried and tried, but I unwillingly succumbed to pain each time. I didn’t feel like leaving my bed. I was in no mood to study for my upcoming midterms. I didn’t want to return to school or work. I didn’t want to be around people. The first time I tried to go out of the house after my miscarriage, everyone I saw either asked about my pregnancy or gave my condolences for my miscarriage. Each time I had to explain, it brought back all the pain again.

However, I am getting better, day by day, and I am learning to live with this. I no longer feel like bursting into tears every time I see a pregnant lady, or a mother playing with her child, or baby clothing in stores. I am beginning to feel happiness again, and no longer have to pretend when I smile. This does not mean I have forgotten. I will never forget the precious weeks I spent with my unborn baby. This only means I am learning how to continue after a miscarriage.

For those who have been in the same situation as I was, I am very sorry this happened to you, and I make sincere dua that Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) blesses you with healthy children in the near future. For my readers who have not experienced such heart break, I pray that Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) gives you healthy pregnancies to term.

During my miscarriage, there was one specific thing that gave me comfort. It was my faith in Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) and the barakah we gain from trusting Him. It gave me the boost I needed to regain control of my life. I thought of how blessed I was as a Muslim to be able to have confidence that my life was in the hands of Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He). It was then that I added the word “Islam” to my google search phrase “continuing after a miscarriage”. Having this tawakkul in Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) brought me so much barakah strength I needed to continue. It was the barakah in this knowledge that gave me the shed of light I needed to continue. Educating myself on the topic of miscarriage in Islam was my first step in recovery.

Step 1: Educate yourself

Alhamdulilah we are blessed with the most merciful and compassionate religion. I was astonished by all the information I found on Islam and miscarriage. Reading ahadeeth regarding miscarriage and stories of companions who had miscarriages or lost their children gave me an unbelievable amount of comfort. I thought that I had lost my baby forever – until I came across this beautiful hadeeth.

Prophet Muhammad ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said, “The miscarried fetus will plead with his Lord if his parents are admitted to Hell. It will be said: “O fetus who pleads with your Lord! Admit your parents to Paradise.” So he will drag them out with his umbilical cord until he admits them to Paradise.’” [Sunan Ibn Majah]

How beautiful is this? Out of Allah’s subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) mercy and compassion I will be reunited with my baby in sha Allah by the doors of heaven. This hadeeth made me burst into tears of happiness and joy.

Step 2: Pray the night prayer

I barely slept after my miscarriage, due to both the physical and emotional pain. One night I forced myself out of bed, made wudu, and prayed qiyam. I felt the closest I had ever been to Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) during that single prayer. Usually when I would start crying randomly, my husband, or mother, or mother in law would comfort me. This time it was different. I cried my eyes out on my prayer mat as I made dua to Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) and He was there comforting me. It was such a beautiful feeling for me alhamdulilah. I cannot even describe the level of comfort this prayer gave me. There I was, making sujood on my prayer mat feeling like I was directly pouring my heart out to Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) and telling Him about the suffering I was going through. My qiyam prayer was one of the strongest steps towards my emotional recovery.

3. Make intense dua

In addition to prayer, I used the tool of dua to speak with Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He). I raised my hands to The Most Merciful and cried my eyes out to Him subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He).

Prophet Muhammad ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said, “There is nothing more honorable with Allah [Most High] than supplication.” [Tirmidhi]

I prayed for physical, emotional, and spiritual strength. I prayed for healthy pregnancy in the future. I prayed for my husband’s comfort and emotional recovery. I prayed for my sisters in Islam who have experienced this. I prayed to be reunited with my unborn angel in heaven. I prayed for everything and anything. Making dua was the only thing I was able to do while I was on bed rest, and I did my best to take advantage of this source of barakah.

4. Have a support system

It would have been unbelievably hard for me to overcome this burden without my family and friends. My husband gave me a shoulder to cry on and constantly reminded me that this was a test from Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) and that we are strong enough to pass it. My mother and mother in law stayed by me, cooked for me, completed my house chores, and were there for me every minute of the day. My friends helped me catch up on school assignments and spoke to my professors. I was very blessed to have this support system. If you are going through a miscarriage, find your support system, and don’t be afraid to ask for help from those around you.

5. Take some time off to grieve

Taking time off was essential for me. I emailed my professors to excuse me from their classes, and I emailed my boss to take a leave from work. I needed this break, not only to recover physically, but emotionally. I wasn’t ready to see people and answer their many questions concerning my pregnancy and miscarriage, or see all the things outside of my bedroom that reminded me of my baby. I needed time to heal. Don’t feel like you are weak if you need time off. This is normal.

6. Don’t go to social gatherings until you are ready

Unfortunately, I had to learn this the hard way. Just a week after my miscarriage, I had to attend a family engagement party. I honestly didn’t feel like getting dressed up and seeing people, but I had to because of family obligations, and without doubt, I got questions about my pregnancy and miscarriage. I fought with all my strength to not tear up and cry, asked my husband to leave early. Seeing all those people at the engagement was too overwhelming for me; it was just too early.

7. Prepare to answer questions

When you feel ready and comfortable to get out of your house, think about the answers you want to give people and how much information you want to share. Unfortunately, sometimes people can be nosy and curious. Don’t share more than you are comfortable with, and don’t hesitate to tell people you don’t want to talk about it. Don’t let anyone force you in a situation of discomfort.

8. Never lose hope and grow impatient

This last piece of advice is very important. Never ever lose faith and trust in Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He), for everything He does has a purpose and wisdom behind it. Be patient. Your time will come in sha Allah. Constantly make dua that Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) gives you what is in your heart. This is what will ultimately be a source of barakah in your life.

Prophet Zakariya asked Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) in the Qur’an, “He said, “My Lord, how will I have a boy when my wife has been barren and I have reached extreme old age?” Then an angel replied to him saying, “[An angel] said, “Thus [it will be]; your Lord says, ‘It is easy for Me, for I created you before, while you were nothing.’ “[Qur’an: Chapter 19: Verses 8-9]

Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) can easily bless you with children; it is just a matter of when. Put your trust in Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) and have faith that there is barakah in everything Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) does. I end this article with a prayer and I ask for you to keep my husband and I in your dua.

“O Allah, I ask you to give every husband and wife the feeling of being a parent and to bless every couple that is struggling with infertility with a healthy child in the near future. Ameen.”

Have you or anyone close to you suffered from a miscarriage? Share your advice in the comments section below on how to deal with the grief and continue after this trial.

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