Thursday, August 31, 2017

The seven under the Shade of Allah Almighty - I

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On the Day of Resurrection, all people that ever lived will be gathered before Allah to await His judgment for all they have done of said during their lives. During this time, the sun will come very close to the people (as close as one mile according to some narrations).

People will want to get away from the heat of the sun but there will be no Shade or shelter to go to and they will start sweating in proportion to their sins. The more sins a person has the more he or she will sweat.

During this traumatic time, however, the seven groups of people who are mentioned in the following Hadeeth (Prophetic narration) will be completely immune to the sun's heat and they will be in complete comfort.

These people will be in such comfort because they will be enjoying the only shade available on that day and that is the Shade of Allah. They will enjoy such an honor because of their piety and obedience to Allah while they were in this life.

The Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, said: "There are seven whom Allah will shade in His Shade on the Day when there is no shade except His Shade: a just ruler; a youth who grew up in the worship of Allah, the Mighty and Majestic; a man whose heart is attached to the mosques; two men who love each other for Allah's sake, meeting for that and parting upon that; a man who is called by a woman of beauty and position [for illegal intercourse], but be says: 'I fear Allah'; a man who gives in charity and hides it, such that his left hand does not know what his right hand gives in charity; and a man who remembered Allah in private and so his eyes shed tears." [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

In this beautiful narration, the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, spoke about small acts of worship which result in such a huge reward: shade on the Day when there will be no shade except His Shade, i.e., the Shade of His Throne.

This may not seem like much at first but then reflect upon the following narration: "On the Day of Resurrection, the sun would draw so close to the people that there would be left a distance of only one mile. The people will be submerged in perspiration according to their deeds, some up to their ankles, some up to their knees, some up to the waist and some would have the bridle of perspiration (and, while saying this, the Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, put his hand towards his mouth)." [Muslim]

Let us examine now the characteristics and virtues of these seven categories of people who will be worthy of such an exalted position on the Day of Gathering.
1. A Just Ruler:
The concept of Justice in Islam is very important and it is something which the Muslim - Ruler and the ruled - must apply in all matters without exception. Justice means to give each the right he deserves: Muslim or non-Muslim, relative or stranger, friend or enemy. Allah Says (what means): "...And do not let hatred cause you to act unjustly, that is nearer to piety." [Quran 5:8]

Unfortunately, even if we admit this in theory, we quickly forget it in practice. So we find that when we speak about our friends and loved ones, we praise them beyond reason and when we speak about those whom we hold difference with, we can find no good in them and we just capitalize on their bad points.

The Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, said: "Allah does not bless a people among whom a weak man is not given his right." [At-Tirmithi]

The concept of justice is most important for the Ruler, since he is in charge of his people and the primary disposer of justice in the land. For this reason, the Ruler is given special mention as one of the seven who will be honored with Allah's Shade.

2. A youth who grew up in the worship of Allah:
The great scholar, Imaam Ayyoob As-Sakhtiyaani (d.131H), may Allah have mercy upon him, stated: 'From the success of a youth is that Allah guides him to a scholar of the Sunnah (to study under and learn from).'
Indeed, it is a great blessing from Allah for a youth be guided towards worship and be befriended by the righteous, since it is in youth that a person is most vulnerable to the temptations of life and liable to drift away from the Islamic Path. This becomes apparent when we look at society around us and we see that most of the worldly distractions, such as music, games, clubs, fashion etc. are all specifically targeted at the young.

'You're only young once!' they are told, which is why many Muslims nowadays waste their youth thinking that they will pray, wear Hijab and go on Hajj, etc. when they are old, as if they have a guarantee of longevity from Allah! How well we would do to heed the Prophet's, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, advice when he said: "Take benefit of five before five: your youth before your old age, your health before your sickness, your wealth before your poverty, your free time before you are preoccupied and your life before your death." [Al-Haakim]

3. A man whose heart is attached to the mosques:
There is great encouragement in the Sunnah for men to pray in the mosques and the reward associated with it is tremendous. Not only does it make the person eligible for Allah's Shade on the day of Judgement, but also: "he does not take a step [towards the mosque except that because of it, he is raised by one rank and one sin is removed from him. Then when he prays, the Angels do not cease supplicating for him [for] as long as he remains at his place of Prayer [sayings]: O Allah send blessings upon him, O Allah have mercy upon him..." [Al-Bukhari]
It must be emphasized here however, that all the narrations encouraging the men to be attached to the mosques are not intended to lead one to the conclusion that Islam is a Religion which should be confined to the mosques, as many people imagine. Nonetheless, the mosque should be at the heart of the Muslim community, and the role of those in authority of the mosques is vital here. They are the ones mainly responsible for making the mosque a welcome refuge for the Muslims.

To be concluded

 


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Tuesday, August 29, 2017

Humility – A Quality of the Ideal

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Allah The Almighty describes the believers in their namesake chapter, Saying (what means): {Indeed, they who are apprehensive from fear of their Lord * And they who believe in the signs of their Lord *And they who do not associate anything with their Lord * And they who give what they give while their hearts are fearful because they will be returning to their Lord.} [Quran 23:57-60] One may wonder what it is that those believers fear, even though they hasten to do good deeds and seek to outdo others in that respect.

And yet, our amazement would increase when we consider the similar response of Prophets, may Allah exalt their mention, when their intercession will be sought. The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, related that, on the Day of Judgment, people "will go to Aadam (Adam), may Allah exalt his mention, and say, 'O our father, ask for Paradise to be opened to us.' He will say, 'Did anything get you out of Paradise other than the sin of your father, Aadam? I am not in a position to [intercede]; you should go to my son Ibraaheem (Abraham), may Allah exalt his mention, the intimate friend of Allah.' [But, when they will come to him], Ibraaheem will say, 'I am not in a position to do that. Verily, I was but a far friend; you should approach Moosa (Moses), may Allah exalt his mention, to whom Allah The Almighty spoke directly.' They will go to Moosa, but he will say, 'It is not my place; you should go to Jesus, the Word of Allah and His Spirit.' However, Jesus, may Allah exalt his mention, will say, 'I am not in a position to do that.' Therefore, they will come to [me], Muhammad, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, and [I] will be permitted [to intercede]." [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

This honorable response of the Prophets, may Allah exalt their mention, during those momentous circumstances, indicates their continuous longing to increase in acts of worship and their tireless efforts to quit minor sins. This stance of theirs marks their keenness to perfect their servitude to Allah The Almighty. What a sublime characteristic for a soul to always long for the loftiest of ranks! Such souls would never be satisfied with attaining a status lower than their abilities; that is why Abu Bakr, may Allah be pleased with him, for instance, aimed to enter Paradise from all its gates.

What is humility?

Being humble is to be aware of one's sins and feel regret for one's shortcomings, as Allah The Almighty Says (what means): {Lest a soul should say, "Oh [how great is] my regret over what I neglected in regard to Allah}. [Quran 39: 56] And this characteristic of humility, increases with knowledge, as Allah The Almighty Says (what means): {Only those fear Allah, from among His servants, who have knowledge} [Quran 35:28].

To attain humility, one must reproach and endeavor to improve him/herself; indeed, Allah The Almighty Says (what means): {He has succeeded who purifies it [soul]} [Quran 91:9] It is such piety and sincerity that acceptance of good deeds is contingent on, as Allah The Almighty Says (what means): {Surely Allah [graciously] accepts only of the pious.} [Quran 5:28] Also, the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said, "The [acceptance of] deeds [is] dependent on the intentions, and a person will bear the consequences of what he [or she] intends…" Without piety and sincerity, the charity of the charitable, the knowledge of the reciters of the Quran and the martyrdom of the martyrs would be fruitless; moreover, those whose deeds lack devotion, will be the first to enter Hell.

Abu Ayyoob As-Sikhtiyaani, may Allah have mercy upon him, used to humbly say, "By Allah, I cannot allege that I have a deed that I am certain that I have done sincerely"; Ath-Thahabi, another pious man, would concur. Similarly, Sulaymaan ibn Mahraan Al-'A'mash, may Allah have mercy upon him, said, "By Allah, I believe that I have become bleary eyed, because the devil urinates in my ears frequently." This refers to the saying of the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, who remarked that a man who sleeps all night long is one in whose ears Satan has urinated. What is amazing is that Sulaymaan, may Allah have mercy upon him, made that comment, even though he was keen on praying at night.

Being humble is to remember the Hereafter often, dislike worldly pleasures and be keen on attaining salvation. 'Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, used to say, "How could you forget the Quranic verse in which Allah The Almighty [tells us what will be said to those entering Hell] (that means): {You exhausted your pleasures during your worldly life and enjoyed them} [Quran 46:20]?" He understood this also from the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, who once asked him, "Are you not pleased with this division that they [i.e., the disbelievers] enjoy the luxuries of this life, and we reap the fruits of the Hereafter?"

And, it is of humbleness, to be fearful of, more than being hopeful about, that Day, and be certain of what will happen when {He may question the truthful about their truth} [Qur'an 33:8], {secrets will be put on trial} [Qur'an 86:9], and when every treacherous person would be known by a sign. On that Day, {their excuse will not benefit the wrongdoers and they will have the curse and the worst home} [Qur'an 40:52], and, {there will appear to them from Allah The Exalted what they had not taken into account.} [Qur'an 39:47]. And, Allah The Almighty will say to the wrongdoers (what means), {Remain despised therein [Hell] and do not speak to Me.} [Quran 23:108]

This is the true understanding of religion, because {no one feels secure from the plan of Allah except the people of loss.} [Quran 7:99] Thus, Imaam Al-Bukhari entitled a chapter of his book, Saheeh Al-Bukhari, "The believer's fear of having his deeds annulled, while being unaware".

Ibraaheem At-Taymiyya, may Allah have mercy upon him said, "I never compared my deeds to my words without fearing that I was a liar." This was in the spirit of the Companions, may Allah be pleased with him, as Ibn Abi Mulaykah, may Allah have mercy upon him, narrates that of the thirty of them that he had met, each one feared that he might be a hypocrite. None of them claimed to be as faithful as Jibreel (Gabriel), may Allah exalt his mention, and Mikaa'eel (Michael), may Allah exalt his mention.

Indeed, that was characteristic of believers, as Al-Hasan, may Allah have mercy upon him, said, that the hypocrites, on the other hand, felt safe from this worry. A Muslim must guard against insistence on hypocrisy and disobedience without repentance; Allah The Almighty admires those, Saying (what means): {[who] do not persist in what they have done while they know.} [Quran 3:135]
Humility also requires of us to ally ourselves with the believers and be dutiful to them. Allah The Almighty Says (what means):

{And lower your wing to those who follow you of the believers.} [Quran 26:215]
{And keep yourself patient [by being] with those who call upon their Lord in the morning and the evening, seeking His countenance. And let not your eyes pass beyond them, desiring adornments of the worldly life.} [Quran 18:28]

The people of Nooh (Noah), may Allah exalt his mention, foolishly said to him: {We do not see you but as a man like ourselves, and we do not see you followed except by those who are the lowest of us [and] at first suggestion.} [Quran 11:27] But, he refuted their allegation, saying: {And I am not one to drive away those who have believed. Indeed, they will meet their Lord, but I see that you are a people behaving ignorantly. * And O my people, who would protect me from Allah if I drove them away? Then will you not be reminded? [..] Nor do I say of those upon whom your eyes look down that Allah will never grant them any good. Allah is most knowing of what is within their souls. Indeed, I would then be among the wrongdoers.} [Quran 11:29-31]

Further, humility necessitates good manners on the believer's part, which manifests in his or her overall conduct. The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said, "Arrogance is denying the truth and the rights of others" ; he, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, also cautioned, "It is enough sin for a person to despise his Muslim brother."

Hence, it is a religious obligation upon Muslims to act cordially with their fellow brothers and sisters in faith, such as by returning their greetings, assisting them in mounting their ride and meeting them with a cheerful countenance.

And, because they observed these etiquettes perfectly, the righteous predecessors were described by Allah The Almighty as being "humble toward the believers" [Qur'an 5:54], and "merciful among themselves" [Qur'an 48:39]

Humility is also manifest in knowing one's real worth among scholars and his or her value, in comparison to them. Shaykh Ali Al-Qaari said, "These days, [those who know little, but are respected as] scholars are many, because true knowledge has declined."

Consider that the first ever to embrace Islam, Abu Bakr, may Allah be pleased with him, humbly refused to lead the people in prayer, saying, "I could not lead the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam." Also, the son-in-law of the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, 'Ali ibn Abi Taalib, may Allah be pleased with him, would say to his son Muhammad ibn Al-Hanafiyyah, "Your father is just one of the Muslims."

Similarly, Al-Haafith Abu Al-Hajjaaj Al-Muzzi professed to ibn Al-Haadi, when the latter tested his retention of Hadeeth by jumbling their chains of narrators, "I am not qualified for such a test; Al-Bukhari is." Ibn Katheer remarked: "This answer was dearer to us than matching each Hadeeth to its chain of narrators."

Also, when a man asked Al-Khateeb Al-Baghdaadi, "Are you Al-Haafith (a senior scholar of Hadeeth) and Al-Khateeb (the orator)?" He, may Allah have mercy upon him, answered, "I am only Ahmad ibn 'Ali ibn Thaabit; the last senior scholar of Hadeeth was Ad-Daaraqutni."

The father of At-Taaj Al-Subky – At-Taqqiyy Al-Subky – may Allah have mercy upon them, who was then the scholar of Daar Al-Ashrafiyyah, used to perform the night prayers where Imaam An-Nawawi, may Allah have mercy upon him, used to hold his classes. He would humbly wipe his face in the place where An-Nawawi, may Allah have mercy upon him, had stood, as an acknowledgement of the latter's great role as a scholar.

Furthermore, humility is to show due respect towards Allah The Almighty and thank Him for all that He has granted us. Allah The Almighty praised His Prophet Ibraaheem, may Allah exalt his mention, as he used to feel remorse for his sins and acts of disobedience.

A believing man is sharp and wise; he recognizes that he is but a servant of Allah The Almighty; his deeds are created by Him, his success contingent on His decree and his progress is thanks to His guidance.
Thus, the slogan of the Companions, may Allah be pleased with them, would be: "By Allah, without Allah we would have received no guidance, nor given in charity, nor prayed." They learned this spirit from the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, who said to 'Aa'ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, when she inquired why he stood in prayer for so long that his feet would swell: "Should I not be a grateful slave of Allah?"

May Allah have mercy upon Al-Junayd, who succinctly said, "True gratitude is to avoid using the blessings of Allah The Almighty to disobey Him."


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Monday, August 28, 2017

Mother Wants Daughter to Travel without Mahram

Question

Assalamu alaykum!

My mum went to work in Saudi Arabia for a year, and she wants to go back in the future as she likes it there and has made good friends. She asked me to get a qualification and accompany her in the future so that she would not be lonely. I feel pressured as though I may make a mistake and listen to her in things that she tries to encourage me to do, as I feel bad. I avoid going to places that are far away from my town now, but my mum wants me to go to a trip with her on Eid, so I did some research and thought that if it is less than 40 miles, I will go. I know that she does not like to listen to me when I say Islamic things, and I know how her anger can be, so I do not say too much. Am I doing the right thing by telling her that I cannot go to Saudi Arabia with her unless it was permanent, as it is not right? I could have benefited from going to a Muslim country, but I would have no mahram (permanently unmarriageable kin) to take me there and bring me back. I also get very distressed because of the way my mum lives life, and instead of accepting help through correct means for her state of mind and health, she keeps living an unstable life by moving homes and jobs, etc. and I have to go along with her. I feel like she is running away when she is sad and does not try to accept life's decrees. I can see that our families are still divided on the same issues of ego and injustice. My mum feels sad and lonely as her family do not come to visit us, and her mum favors others more than her, but I wish that my mum could see it as a test and accept it. I try to be normal with everyone and be a good example, but my mum expects me to stay loyal to her when she is wronged. I feel sorry for her, but I also know that she is missing something bigger that she could get from the religion instead of getting it from her mum and family, but I think that she is trapped. How can I help someone like my mum while being steady myself when she asks me to do certain things like the ones that I have mentioned?

May Allah reward you!


Answer

May Allah, the Most Merciful, make it easy for you and your mother. As you know, Allah ordered Muslims to be kind to their parents without disobeying Allah. Travelling without a mahram is forbidden in Islam for women. Therefore, your concerns for not travelling to see your mother are correct. From what you wrote, it seems that your mother needs to seek advice from the people of knowledge about the decisions in her life in order to be concerned about how to be obedient to Allah, the Most High, and live life according to the Sunnah of the Prophet, sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam.

As far as your responsibility towards your mother is concerned, you should be extremely kind to her. If there is a way for you to travel to her in a permissible manner, then do so. See if there is a possibility to move there with her, and that would be a good environment for the both of you. You could then help her to increase her faith and go to Hajj or Umrah together.

Try to be close to the Muslim community in your locality, and there might be sisters there who could find a good religious husband for you, and that would make things easy for you, Allah willing, in the sense that you could travel and be close to your mother and help her.

May Allah make it easy for you and your mother.

 


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The story of Prophet Ibraheem -I

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Prophet Ibraheem, may Allaah exalt his mention, was born in Iraq. His father, whose name was Aazar, would carve idols from wood and sell them to the idol worshippers. Prophet Ibraheem, may Allaah exalt his mention, led his life in continuous struggle to comprehensively establish Islam. He is mentioned with praiseworthy titles in the Quran which help us to understand his distinguished character.

Prophet Ibraheem, may Allaah exalt his mention, was endowed with knowledge of Allah from a very young age. He rejected the practice of idol worship and urged his father to worship Allah, the one and only God. He argued with his father to abandon his idolatry and worship Allah alone, but the latter became enraged and displayed haughtiness and arrogance. When Ibraheem, may Allaah exalt his mention, further argued with his father that the idols did not have the ability to harm or benefit, his father told his son to leave his house or be stoned to death.  Ibraheem, may Allaah exalt his mention, replied with (what means): "…'Peace [i.e., safety] will be upon you. I will ask forgiveness for you of my Lord. Indeed, He is ever gracious to me. And I will leave you…" [Quran: 19:47-48]

Prophet Ibraheem, may Allaah exalt his mention, addressed the issue of worshipping kings and rulers such as Namrooth, king of Ur in Chaldea (Babylon) who alleged being a god. This tyrannous king claimed the ability of giving life and causing death to human beings. Prophet Ibraheem, may Allaah exalt his mention, refuted this allegation by a decisive sentence when he asked the king to cause the sun to rise from the west. The king Namrooth realised his disability to accomplish such a task, and therefore his allegation of being a god was refuted.

He, may Allah exalt his mention, continued his struggle against idolatry and followed every possible way to prove the Tawheed (Oneness of Allah) by offering evidence and logical arguments. He asked his people (what means): "…'What do you worship?' They said: 'We worship idols [as did our fathers] and remain to them devoted.' He [Ibraheem] said: 'Do they hear you when you supplicate? Or do they benefit you, or do they harm?'" [Quran: 26:70-73]

He, may Allah exalt his mention, reminded them that there was only One God, the Lord of all creation, who controlled life, death and resurrection. He, may Allah exalt his mention, urged his own father to desist from worshipping idols and said that he had learned from his own experience that Allah alone was worthy of worship.

He, may Allah exalt his mention, was shown by Allah the Kingdom of the heavens and the earth, so that he might be convinced of the faith in his Creator; The Quran narrates (what means): "So when the night covered him [with darkness], he [Ibraheem] saw a star. He said: 'This is my lord.' But when it set, he said: 'Unless my Lord guides me, I will surely be among the people gone astray.' And when he saw the sun rising, he said (what means): "'This is my lord; this is greater.' But when it set, he said, 'O my people! Indeed I am free from what you associate with Allah. Indeed, I have turned my face [i.e., self] toward He who created the heavens and the earth, and I am not of those who associate others [in worship] with Allah.'" [Quran: 6:76-79]

The people jeered at him, remonstrated with him, and even stoned him; they tried to frighten him into believing that their idols would destroy him and his God would not be able to save him. 

But Ibraheem, may Allaah exalt his mention, responded with (what means): "…'do you argue with me concerning Allah while He has guided me? And I fear not what you associate with Him [and will not be harmed] unless my Lord should will something'…" [Quran: 6:80-81]

After he had no hope of their response, he crept in stealth to their idols and smashed them all, except for the largest one. When the people knew that Ibraheem, may Allaah exalt his mention, had been the doer, they prepared a huge fire wherein he was thrown. But he emerged safe from the fire by the Grace of Allah.

After this, Ibraheem, may Allaah exalt his mention, left his people for Palestine, accompanied by his wife, Sarah, and his nephew, Loot, may Allaah exalt their mention. When they passed by the territory of a tyrant king, someone told that tyrant that a stranger had come accompanied by a very charming lady. The king ordered that the lady be brought to him.  When the lady (Sarah) was brought to him, he tried to take hold of her but, by a miracle of Allah, his hand became rigid. He then gave Sarah, may Allaah exalt her mention, a maidservant by the name of Hajar, may Allaah exalt her mention. 

As Ibraheem and Sarah, may Allaah exalt their mention, had reached old age with no children, Sarah, may Allaah exalt her mention, offered her servant Hajar, may Allaah exalt her mention, to her husband as a wife in order that he could have a child from her, as this was the wish of Ibraheem, may Allaah exalt his mention.

From Hajar, may Allaah exalt her mention, Ibraheem, may Allaah exalt his mention, was given a son named Ismaa'eel, despite being eighty-six years of age. Allah the Glorious and Mighty then commanded Ibraheem, may Allaah exalt his mention, to take his wife and beloved son to a barren place (Makkah) and to leave them there, alone, where no food, water, or human life was to be seen. The wife, may Allaah exalt her mention, heartily accepted this command, as it was Allah's will.  It was only occasionally that Ibraheem, may Allaah exalt his mention, did visit his bitterly suffering wife and son. On one such visit, Allah commanded him to offer his son as a sacrifice, which was the most difficult test for his faith.

The son obeyed his father's accomplishment of Allah's will. Just as Ibraheem, may Allaah exalt his mention, was about to slaughter Isma'eel, may Allaah exalt his mention, Allah ransomed him for a ram.  Allah revealed to Ibraheem, may Allaah exalt his mention, that this was a trial for him in which he succeeded.

Ibraheem and his son, Isma'eel, may Allaah exalt their mention, then built the Sacred House of Allah, the Ka'bah, in Makkah (see Quran: 14:35–41]). Prophet Ibraheem, may Allaah exalt his mention, established the rites of Hajj as enjoined by Allah (see [Quran: 22:26-30]). He taught people Tawheed (see [Quran: 60:4]), Allah's Attributes (see [Quran 26:77-84]), belief in the Day of Resurrection (see [Quran 2:260])…. etc.

As a concluding statement, it is worth noting that this story of Ibraheem, may Allaah exalt his mention, teaches us, among many other things, that it is the relationship between a Muslim and his Lord and brother Muslims that should be given precedence over blood relationships.

The story of Prophet Ibraheem –II

 


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Saturday, August 26, 2017

Accredit the Deen, not yourself

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Table of Contents:



Situation #1: You came clean with a defect in one of your products for which your customers appreciated you a ton

Situation #2: You found a flaw in your colleague's work but informed him privately instead of humiliating him publicly

Situation #3: Someone did you a favour or helped you out, you gift him back

Situation #4: Someone knowingly harmed you but you respond back differently

Situation #5: You got angry at your subordinate for something petty or due to ego/office politics.

Situation #6: You saw him being cheated and came to his rescue 

Situation #7: You are on a hiking trip & end up sharing your meal with some lost trekkers 

Situation #8: You are overstaying at someone's house and ensure you clean your left-over's in every situation

Situation #9: A group of people mock a cyclist for failing miserably but you help him out

Situation #10: You console someone you came across to be upset/crying 

Situation #11: You cooked something special and shared it with your neighbour

Situation #12: You insist on the labourers taking their payment on the last day of work

Situation #13: You offer to reconcile/arbitrate between two strangers fighting

Situation #14: You participate in a campaign for improving the environment by cleaning the beach

Situation #15: Your friend asks you to hold on to his belonging and remembers it after 2 weeks

Situation #16: You overhear your neighbour hitting his wife so you come over to mediate 

Situation #17: Someone seeks your advise in career or other matter & you advise him far better than others did

Situation #18: You help someone who seemed confused at a government office regarding the Visa applying formalities

Situation #19: An Officer helps you repair your broken down car





I firmly believe that any and everything good - among morals, values and/or ethics - stem from within the teachings of Islam. Being aware about the boldness of this claim, i will tend to briefly support it below: 

From a Muslim point of view, it is our firm belief that we are created with certain qualities or characteristic traits by God himself. For each his own. And same ruling applies to good traits that a person adopts or develops over time. 


The Messenger of Allah (sallalahu `alayhi wa sallam) said: 

إنَّما يهدِي إلى أحسنِ الأخلاق: اللهُ، وإنّما يصرفُ مِن أسوَئها هُو

Verily, There is no doubt that Allah is the one who guides to the best of manners and he is the one who diverts a person away from the worst of manners 

[Ref: Silsilah as-saheeha 3255, there is thus a du`a for this, Allahumma inni `audhibika min munkiraatil-akhlaaqihi - Oh Allah i seek your refuge from bad manners and traits] 


The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) told Ashajj (may god be pleased with him): 


You have two qualities which Allah and His Messenger love.' He asked, 'Was I born with them or are they characteristics which I have acquired (on my own)?' He said, 'No, they are part of the natural character on which you were created (by Allah).' They are clemency (mercy or forbearance) and deliberateness (Arabic: anaah).  Ashajj said, 'Praise belongs to Allah who has created me with what Allah an His Messenger love!'"


[Ref: Sunan Abi Dawud 5225, Saheeh Muslim ]


And as for anah (deliberateness), then it is proceeding with care and exactness and abandoning haste, and that is reigning oneself in


Al-Qaadhi 'Iyaadh said: So al-anaah is to wait watchfully until one sees the benefits of a situation, and not to rush


So every time you do something good to others and are appreciated for it or even not, make sure you accredit the religion for it because first of all, had Allah not decreed you do that good act, you would never have!. Secondly, your good action is already something Islam teaches to its followers. Not only this approach helps you rectify your intention, gain reward via it but also helps teach others the values of Islam. Here are some real-life based examples. 


Situation #1: You came clean with a defect in one of your products for which your customers appreciated you a ton



When the customers respond, you could summarise the below.  

The prophet (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam) said:

"The trader who is truthful will be (among) those seven (categories of people) who will be under the shadow of the Throne of Allah the Most High on the Day of Resurrection".

[Ref: Narrated in Al-Asmaa' wa Sifaat (p. 371) and Ibn Hajar classed it Hasan in Fath al-Baari (2/144).]

The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) also said:

"Merchants (often) are the evildoers." It was said: O Messenger of Allaah, has Allaah not permitted buying and selling? He said: "Yes, but they speak and tell lies, and they swear (false) oaths (to fool, betray customers and gain profit) and sin (as a result of it)."


[Ref: Narrated by Ahmad (3/428); al-Haakim (2/8) – See -Silsilah al-Saheehah (366).]

This is how i did it: You're most welcome, after all this is what my religion teaches me [smile], so i was bound to disclose the defect anyway. 


Situation #2: You found a flaw in your colleague's work but informed him privately instead of humiliating him publicly


What goes around, comes back around. Who doesn't make blunders? Heck we have a long list of successful people lecturing new bee's to fail majorly - as a motivational speech. But colleagues tend to expose each other more so due to jealousy or competition. May allah forgive us all.

When he thanks you, summarise the below: 

The Messenger of Allah (sallalahu `alayhi wa sallam) said: 

"Whoever conceals the (hidden) fault of his Muslim brother, Allah (SWT) will conceal his faults on the Day of Resurrection.

[Ref: Sunan ibn Majah, Book 20, Hadith 2643]

 The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, also said:

 مَنْ نَصَرَ أَخَاهُ بِالْغَيْبِ نَصَرَهُ اللَّهُ فِي الدُّنْيَا وَالآخِرَةِ

"Whoever supports his brother in private, then Allah will support him in this life and in the Hereafter."



[Ref: Mu`jam Al-Kabeer 14771]

Note: These faults are those which if concealed does not really cause any major harm either to the business or company. But If the flaw really needs to be exposed for security reasons or because the person deserves to be corrected for his repeated offences, then yes it is mandatory to disclose it. 


Situation #3: Someone did you a favour or helped you out, you gift him back


When he comments " It really wasn't need but nevertheless, it was so thoughtful of you" , you reply with the below:

The Messenger of Allah (sallalahu `alayhi wa sallam) said:

"He who was given a gift and was able to reward for it (by re gifting) let him do so, and he who was not able to reward for it let him praise [ and pray for the giver] for that he who praised has been thankful, and he who concealed [the gift] has disbelieved [minor disbelief]. 

[Ref: At-Tirmidhi no 2034 and Al-Albaanee graded it as sound in Saheeh at-Targheeb no 968.]


Situation #4: Someone knowingly harmed you but you respond back differently


It amazes people seeing how you didn't stoop down to their level. Some even come clean apologising or regretting and this is when you get the opportunity to summarise:

Allah says:

Repel [evil] by that [deed] which is better; and thereupon the one whom between you and him is enmity [will become] as though he was a devoted friend. [Ref: Qur'an 41:34] 

Allah also said: 

"…who repress anger, and who pardon men; verily, Allah loves Al-Muhsinoon (the good‑doers).

[Ref: Qur'an 3:134]

The Messenger of Allah (sallalahu `alayhi wa sallam) said:

وإن امرؤ سبك بما يعلم فيك، فلا تسبه بما تعلم فيه، فإن أجره لك، ووباله على من قاله

"... if a man abuses and shames you for something which he finds in you, then do not shame him for something which you find in him; (for) you will earn the reward (for this) and he will bear the evil consequences for what he said." 

[Ref: Musnad Ahmed, 20633, Adab al-Mufrad and Sunan Abu Dawud 4084, Saheeh]


Situation #5: You got angry at your subordinate for something petty or due to ego/office politics.


The Messenger of Allah (sallalahu `alayhi wa sallam) said: 

 Whoever suppresses his anger – when he has the authority (in this world) to exact/unleash it, but withholds (for the sake of Allah then) Allaah fills his heart with hope on the day of Judgement [and calls him in front of all the top leaders from mankind to reward him]

[Ref: Jami` Tirmidhi, Sunan Abi dawood and Silsilah Ahadeeth As-Saheehah of Shaykh Al-Albaani. No. 906]

the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "The strong man is not the one who can wrestle (fight); the strong man is the one who controls himself at the time of anger." 

[Ref: Saheeh Bukhari]

The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said

مَنْ ضَارَّ ضَارَّ اللَّهُ بِهِ وَمَنْ شَاقَّ شَاقَّ اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ

Whoever (unjustly) harms others, then Allah will harm him. Whoever is harsh with others, then Allah will be harsh with him.

[Ref: Sunan al-Tirmidhi 1940]


Situation #6: You saw him being cheated and came to his rescue 


He thanks you for saving his hard earned money go into waste or saving him from having his sick daughter consulted by a fraud doctor. You summarise the below saying it was obligatory upon you from your religion to help enjoin good and stop evil:

The Messenger of Allah (sallalahu `alayhi wa sallam) said: 

When the people see a wrongdoer and do not prevent him, Allah will soon punish them all. Amr ibn Hushaym's version has: I heard the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) say: If acts of disobedience are done among any people and do not change them though they are able to do so, Allah will soon punish them all. 

[Ref: Sunan Abi Dawood (4338), Saheeh. For more see: https://the-finalrevelation.blogspot.com/2014/08/proofs-for-forbidding-or-refuting-evil.html]


Situation #7: You are on a hiking trip & end up sharing your meal with some lost trekkers 


They: Thank you so much for helping us out at such a critical circumstance.

You: Don't feel obliged, as my Prophet sallallahu `alaihi wa sallam said (encouraging us),  "When the Ash'ariyoon [a tribe from Yemen] ran short of food during an expedition or when they were at home in Al-Madinah, they gathered all the provisions they had in a single sheet and then divide it equally among themselves. They are of me and I am of them."


[Ref: al-Bukhari and Muslim]



Situation #8: You are overstaying at someone's house and ensure you clean your left-over's in every situation



Be it as a guest, or as a night-out over with friends, displaying manners of hygiene and cleanliness is always a plus. When they thank you for your gesture you reply: 

My Prophet instructed us saying:  "Cleanliness is half of faith (Emaan)."


[Ref: Sahih Muslim 223]


Situation #9: A group of people mock a cyclist for failing miserably but you help him out

He: Thanks a lot. Those jerks always put me through this. 

You: It was obligatory upon me to help you out because my Prophet said: 

Whoever would love to be saved from Hellfire and entered into Paradise, .... let him treat people the way he would love to be treated.


[ref: Saheeh Muslim 1844]


Situation #10: You console someone you came across to be upset/crying 



You've been very kind to console me bro, i really appreciate your motivation. 

You: Don't worry pal, because my Prophet (sallalahu `alayhi wa sallam) told us : 

"There is no believer who consoles his brother at the time of a calamity but that Allah the Exalted will clothe him with noble garments on the Day of Resurrection."

[Ref: Sunan Ibn Majah 1601]



Situation #11: You cooked something special and shared it with your neighbour


Neighbour: Oh , that is very nice of you dear

You: Thank you but this is something we tend to do habitually because our Prophet (sallalahu `alayhi wa sallam) said: 

Certainly whoever has been given a portion of gentleness, has been given his portion of goodness in the world and the hereafter. Having good and cordial relations with relatives, good manners and being good to neighbours blesses your dwellings and lengthens your life. 

[Ref: Silsilah Aahadeeth as-saheeha 519]

Situation #12: You insist on the labourers taking their payment on the last day of work


Workers: It is really okay boss, you can pay us next month whenever convenient. 

You: No, i am obliged to fulfil the contract term because my Prophet said:

The greatest of sins near Allah are of. ……a man who employs someone to have his work done and does not pay him his wages

[Ref: Mustadrak al-Haakim Vol 3, Page 538; Sunan al-Kubra lil Bayhaqi 13330, Hasan]

He, peace and blessings be upon him, also emphasized on this saying: 

"Give the worker his wages before his sweat dries."

[Ref: Sunan ibn Maajah, Book 16, Hadith 2537, Saheeh]


Situation #13: You offer to reconcile/arbitrate between two strangers fighting


After using your communication skill to reconcile between them 

They: So how much do we owe you for the trouble you went through for us?

You: I seek not anything from you but from my Lord for my Prophet informed us: 

"Shall I not inform you of something more excellent in degree than fasting, prayer and spending in charity?" The people replied: 'Yes, O, Prophet of Allaah!' He said: "Reconciling between people."

[Ref: Abu Daawood and others] 

Situation #14: You participate in a campaign for improving the environment by cleaning the beach


Campaign team leader: Thank you for your hard work. 

You: Most welcome, though my motivation came from my prophet who said: 

"Removing harmful things from the road is an act of charity (sadaqah).

[Ref: Books of sunan and saheeh and elsewhere he also said a man was in paradise for he removed a stone/tree that blocked the path of the travellers]

Situation #15: Your friend asks you to hold on to his belonging and remembers it after 2 weeks


Friend: Oh thanks a lot, i thought i had lost it ! I forgot i left it with you the other day

You: No problem. Actually i was obliged to fulfil the trust because my Prophet said: 

The signs of the hypocrite are three: when he speaks, he lies; when he makes a promise, he breaks it; and when he is entrusted with something, he betrays that trust."


[Ref: Narrated by al-Bukhari, 33; Muslim, 59]


He also said: 

 If you love that Allah and his Messenger love you, then continue to .. fulfilling trusts

[Ref: Silsilah ahadeeth as-saheeha 2998]


Situation #16: You overhear your neighbour hitting his wife so you come over to mediate 


She: Thank you so much for the other day. 

You: No problem. We Muslims are taught by our Prophet to do so. He said:

'Indeed Allaah advices you in the strongest possible terms to be good to women, indeed Allaah advices you in the strongest possible terms to be good to women, advices you in the strongest possible terms with regards to women, indeed they are your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your paternal aunts (father's sisters) and your maternal aunts(mother's sisters).

[Ref: Tareekh ad-Dimishq Ibn `Asaakir . To see how our Prophet gave rights to women visit: http://whytheshariah.blogspot.com/search/label/Women%20in%20Islam] 


Situation #17: Someone seeks your advise in career or other matter & you advise him far better than others did


He: I appreciate your detailed feedback and council. Usually people never explain all the angles the way you did and end up lying out off envy. 

You: Most welcome. Had i not been honest it would be sinful for me because my Prophet said: 


"Whoever advises his brother to do something while knowing that another matter is better than it, he has indeed betrayed him.

[Ref: Abu Daawood] 



Situation #18: You help someone who seemed confused at a government office regarding the Visa applying formalities


She/He: Thank you so much for guiding me leaving your work. I really appreciate it! 

You: Sure thing. I did it because My prophet promised us saying that :

'The most beloved of the people to Allaah are the most beneficial for the people....Whoever walks with his brother to assist him with a need until he has helped him completely, then Allaah plants his feet firmly on the day people will not stand firmly. 


[Ref: Silsilah Ahadeeth As-Saheehah of Shaykh Al-Albaani. No. 906]



Situation #19: An Officer helps you repair your broken down car




You: Thank you for helping me fix this problem. 



Officer: No problem, it was my job anyway as a road side assistant officer



You: Nevertheless, my prophet (sallalahu `alayhi wa sallam) said:



Whoever is not grateful for small things will not be grateful for large things. Whoever is not thankful to people has not thanked Allah..



[Ref: Musnad Ahmad 17982]




Conclusion: 



Do not ever belittle any good deed and be consistent in doing it. Because:



On the authority of Abu Dharr in a narration ascribed to the Prophet: 



1) 'Smiling in your brother's face is charity (Sadaqah) for you, 



2) when you enjoin the good and prohibit evil it is charity, 



3) when you show directions to a man who has lost his way it is Sadaqah for you.



4)  Helping a weak-sighted (or blind) person by using your sight is charity for you. 



5) When you remove a rock, thorn and bones from the pathway it is charity for you.



6) When you pour from your bucket into your brother's bucket it is charity for you.'

[Ref: Silsilah As-saheeha No. 572 , Sunan al-Tirmidhi (Vol. 4, Book 1, Hadith 1956)]




This is Islam ! Be proud of it. Correct those Muslims who don't follow it and guide non Muslims towards the true message of what Islam teaches via your actions. 


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Friday, August 25, 2017

The ruling on removing skin or nails in the state of Ihram

Question

I read that clipping the nails is one of the violations of Ihraam. If a pilgrim finds that a nail or part of a nail needs to be removed because it hurts or disturbs him, and he removes it, does he incur any sort of compensation? What about removing dead skin which grows besides the fingernails or toenails as well as the dead skin on the heels? Does this require compensation? Please advise.

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, is His Slave and Messenger.

Clipping the nails is one of the violations of Ihram, but if a pilgrim's nail is broken and hurts him, there will be no harm to clip the hurting part only without any sort of compensation required. Ibn 'Abbas, may Allaah be pleased with him, said, "A pilgrim in the state of Ihram is allowed to smell basil, enter the shower, pull out his molars, and squeeze out pus. If his nail is broken, he can remove harm from himself." He added, "Remove harm from yourselves, for Allah The Almighty does not benefit from your harm." [Ad-Daraqutni and Al-Bayhaqi]

Scholars have different opinions concerning the ruling of removing some of a person's skin during the state of Ihram. Some scholars, like Shaykh Ibn Baz, may Allaah have mercy upon him, forbade it, and others, like Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen, may Allaah have mercy upon him, permitted it. In Fatawa Shaykh Ibn Baz, may Allaah have mercy upon him, it was written,  

A Muslim in the state of Ihram or one [not in Hajj] who intends to slaughter a sacrificial animal for 'Eed Al-Adh'ha should not remove anything from his skin or hair. A pilgrim in the state of Ihram and the Muslim who intends to slaughter a sacrificial animal for 'Eed Al-Adh'ha should not remove any thing from their skin, whether from the face or the leg or the hand or anywhere else until the pilgrim makes the first dissolution of Ihram and the latter slaughters his sacrificial animal.

Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen, may Allaah have mercy upon him said, "A pilgrim in the state of Ihram is not forbidden to remove part of his skin." We do not know any authentic evidence on the prohibition, and the preponderant opinion is that it is permissible. However, it is more cautious not to remove any skin to be away from the divergence in opinions.

Allah Knows best.

Fatwa answered by: The Fatwa Center at Islamweb


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Thursday, August 24, 2017

There is no specific supplication for every round of Tawaaf

 

Question
 
At every TAWAF we have to say diffrent doas
Answer
 
All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, is His slave and Messenger.
Supplicating is desirable during Tawaf but it is not an obligation. Also, it is desirable for a person performing Tawaf to supplicate with any legislated supplication and there is no difference in this regard between one round and another.
So, it is not an obligation to say a given supplication in every round of the rounds of Tawaaf. Ibn 'Uthaymeen, may Allaah have mercy upon him, said: "It is not reported from the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, during Tawaf that he used to say a specific supplication in every round (of the rounds of Tawaf)."
Furthermore, Ibn Taymiyyah, may Allaah have mercy upon him, said: "There is no specific mention of Allah in Tawaf that was reported from the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam; he did not order this, say this or teach this; rather, he used to say any of the legislated supplications in Tawaf."
 
Allah Knows best.
 
Fatwa answered by: The Fatwa Center at Islamweb

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Thursday, August 3, 2017

Is it Obligatory for Women to Dye Their Hands with Henna? – Shaykh ibn Baz

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Is it Obligatory for Women to Dye Their Hands 
with Henna? – Shaykh ibn Baz

Questioner:

Is it obligatory for a woman to dyer her hands with henna, because some people claim that a woman is imitating men if she does not henna her hands? Please benefit us.

Shaykh ʿAbd al-Azīz bin ʿAbdullah bin Bāz:

Without a doubt, dyeing her hands with henna is highly recommended. Some narrations are reported which are weak, however it is better for her to dye them with henna. In regards to its ruling, if its permissible or prohibited for her to leave her hands plain, I'm not aware of any basis this saying. Nonetheless, it is better and preferable for her to dye them with henna, so that they will not resemble the hands of a man.

This is what is better and is more preferable, since there are narrations which mention this, and it is from the sunnah that is well-known among women and it was a norm at the time of the Prophet ﷺ and after his death to dye the hands with henna, and it is highly recommended for women.


SOURCE: Binbaz.org

http://dusunnah.com/article/is-it-obligatory-for-women-to-dye-their-hands-with-henna-shaykh-ibn-baz/
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Wednesday, August 2, 2017

Hating oneself – Lost Identity

Question

I hate myself so much. I am a girl that did not live like a regular girl. My family enforced the hijab on me by beating and harassing me. In order to enforce my obedience, they grounded me for a week just to cover my face. I wear the hijab regularly, but I hate it. The schools in my district did not accept me because of my visa. One of the schools did, but it was mostly an all-boys school. I could not befriend them of course, as the hijab prevented me from making male friends there. Instead, I spent three years in the US without friends. This year, I went to a school similar to the idea of homeschooling. I hate it so much. My family is against women. It haunts me to this day how they enforced the hijab on me and thought I had committed adultery as young as thirteen just because I fancied the luminous lights of NYC and decided to take a walk. It was just a walk... I feel suicidal right now. I have lost my "feminine me"; all I can think of is to be a transgender man. I loved the lifestyle of men more than that of women as young as 10, but I at least felt straight. Now the idea of feminism caused me to making this decision. All I want is to leave my family's house and marry a woman according to the Sunnah of the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam. It is not easy for me to deal with the situation of spending the whole week with my family who barely leave the house. Even though "America" thankfully changed them, all I can think of right now is that Islam, like Christianity in Europe, was just a civilization that will eventually modernize (and adapt) to today's world. I hated being a woman because of the way my family once spoke about it; they said that there would be no freedom until marriage. I hated men after that! I wanted to be a man to never have to deal with this. I am struggling; I cannot concentrate and deleted my social media accounts. I cannot stand the fact that I feel so bad and jealous whenever I see my friends who live a normal Middle-Eastern lifestyle with their friends and family. I came to the US for a purpose. The masjid offers no support.


Answer

Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullah.

May Allah bring peace and happiness to your life. Let me go through your letter and respond and then give you a summary at the end.

You said: I hate myself so much. I am a girl that did not live like a regular girl. My family enforced the hijab on me by beating and harassing me. In order to enforce my obedience, they grounded me for a week just to cover my face. I wear the hijab regularly, but I hate it.

You hate yourself because your parents enforced the hijab on you; if that is true, then your parents wronged themselves and you by beating and harassing you. What you need to realize though is that your parents want good for you, but sometimes the utilized means are wrong. Islam is the true Religion from Allah that all Messengers of Allah embraced. We are a creation of Allah and are weak and in need, and Allah is the Lord of all that exists. Therefore, He is the Most Merciful, the Most Powerful, and the Most Wise, so He is the only one worthy of worship. We have to worship Him with love and submission, and we have to be obedient to Him with love and submission. He created you and ordered you with what fits you perfectly, but often times human beings think that they know better, which is wrong. A thief thinks that stealing is a good thing for him, but it is obviously wrong. In the same way, any act of disobedience to Allah is an evil thing, even if it fits our desires. Allah ordered you to wear the hijab, so be obedient to Him and gain knowledge to see how beautiful that is. Be proud of yourself, do not hate yourself. Be proud that you are an obedient human being to Allah, the Most Merciful. The bad environment can make us think that it is perfect, this is when you said "I am a girl that did not live like a regular girl." What is a regular girl? If you mean a girl that is treated well and does what children do, like playing etc., then yes, you deserve that, but if you mean to be like how the non-Muslims live their life, following their desires to the fullest, then that is not regular; rather, it is evil and destructive.

Allah gave us an intellect to think; how can the Creator of the heavens and the earth order us to do something and we hate it? It should be done with love. Supplicate that Allah instills the love of Allah and the love for the truth in your heart. Patience is one of the acts of worship that helps us to overcome our desires when they oppose the truth.


You said: The schools in my district did not accept me because of my visa. One of the schools did, but it was mostly an all-boys school. I could not befriend them of course, as the hijab prevented me from making male friends there. Instead, I spent three years in the US without friends. This year, I went to a school similar to the idea of homeschooling. I hate it so much. My family is against women. It haunts me to this day how they enforced the hijab on me and thought I had committed adultery as young as thirteen just because I fancied the luminous lights of NYC and decided to take a walk. It was just a walk...

What prevents a Muslim woman from having male friends is not the hijab as far as clothing is concerned; rather, it is the obedience to Allah to protect one's chastity and dignity. When you look at how family ties are broken and children are born out of wedlock, that is abuse towards generations to come because of the greed and desires of the human beings away from the orders of Allah. Again, your family, according to what you said, were wrong in presenting the matter to you.


You said: I feel suicidal right now. I have lost my "feminine me"; all I can think of is to be a transgender man. I loved the lifestyle of men more than that of women as young as 10, but I at least felt straight. Now the idea of feminism caused me to making this decision. All I want is to leave my family's house and marry a woman according to the Sunnah of the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam. It is not easy for me to deal with the situation of spending the whole week with my family who barely leave the house.

Put your trust in Allah, the One Who created you and knows best how to cure you from what you feel. Suicide is never a solution; rather, it is a decision to enter Hellfire, where regret will never benefit. If you seek reward from Allah and have patience, life will have meaning to it; you will worship your Creator at times of ease and at times of difficulties. Shaytan (the devil) is making you think all these evil things to take you away from the mercy of Allah, so do what is right and supplicate Allah to help you.

Try to go to the masjid and meet other girls there that can give you support. Life is a struggle. If you understand the nature of life, it will be easy for you. Your heart is the start. Fill your heart with the love of Allah; He has a plan for you, so do not ruin your life.

You might think that what I mentioned is of no benefit, but you have to try.
Here is what I suggest for you to do:

Turn to Allah alone sincerely and truthfully with supplication, seek forgiveness from Him, and ask Him to show you the truth and to make you hate falsehood.

I do not think that you pray. And if you are actually praying, then you are not doing it right. Pray your five daily prayers with humbleness and concentration, and ask Allah in your prayers.

Try to help others, give charity, feed the poor, etc. That would give meaning to your life.

Seek the company of good people who remind you of Allah. Be active in the masjid instead of seeking support from them.

May Allah make it easy for you!


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